Wednesday, January 19, 2011

Is happiness a choice?

I've managed to form quite a routine since I began my summer school schedule, one that involves going to bed and waking up at same time every day, something I hadn't been able to do in my first 5 months here. Although it was nice to have a bit of a variation in schedule, it's definitely true what they say about your body being happier if you get the same amount of sleep every night.
Part of my morning routine gets me to the Metro just in time to grab a Publimetro, one of the free newspaper publications that they hand out every morning. I usually go straight to my horoscope, peruse the remaining contents for awhile, and then take it home to Ita who then reads it cover to cover every afternoon.
This morning's edition is dedicated to happiness, more specifically about taking control and learning how to be happy. It also features a brief interview with Gretchen Rubin, the author of a book called The Happiness Project, which now appears to be published in several different languages. I actually read this book over the summer before I left for Chile, and although I didn't start my own project, I focused on the underlying theme that is present in many books of this nature, the idea that we are partially responsible for creating just how happy we actually are. In order to change our level of happiness, we have to change something.
Many of us fall victim to the circumstances of our lives. In saying this I'm not referring to those people who are truly suffering with a horrible disease or who have experienced something really tragic. I mean the people who get caught up in their daily lives without ever really taking the time to think about what's important to them or if they even like what they're doing. I had started to become one of those people, and indirectly that's what brought me here to Chile. I just needed a change...
I wanted to get away from my American lifestyle of going through the motions and killing time by buying more stuff at Target. I didn't give away everything I own, but simply due to space limitations I am living a much more simplistic life on a wage that's about half of what I was making at home. It's not having less stuff that has made a difference, it's what I've done to fill the space that has sparked the change. I don't drive, shop, or watch a lot of TV. That alone has freed up time to ride my bike, practice more yoga, read, journal, walk, improve my Spanish, etc. My friends Amie and Bryan are making similar plans for their own lives, and Bryan writes beautifully about minimalism here.
I know that many of my friends at home don't have the option to spend this much time on "themselves". They have busy lives, small children, work, and other responsibilities that bring them stress. The author of this book was in a similar situation with her own busy life and small children, but over the course of a year she managed to make very small changes and saw significant results.
What's something very small in your own life that you could change that would bring you greater happiness? Not a resolution, not a diet, not a pledge to give up Diet Coke...think about it. Pick up Gretchen's book, check out her website, or start making your own list. It could be something really small like pledging to have dinner with your family at the table every night. It's still January people, the perfect time to start.

6 comments:

  1. I love it! What an awesome post Heather. Most people don't need to take things to extremes, but just the idea of working towards greater happiness is a noble idea. I for one think that happiness IS a choice. It doesn't matter where you live or what you do in life. You can choose to be present and take control of your life (and happiness) or you can blame everything on external sources and give in to the negativity. Thanks as always for being inspiring to us. :-)

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  2. Thanks Bryan, I think you have inspired me to take my blog to a little deeper level...I'm much better at sharing these thoughts in places other than the internet but I think it's time to change that!

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  3. I've always believed this, but it's good to have a reminder. Great post, Heather.

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  4. Well done my friend, well done. That was really nicely put. I agree completely that the majority of the time happiness is a choice. Ironically, I read this post in the parking lot at SuperTarget. I was just there for groceries I swear! ;) miss you!

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  5. Abby, thanks and see you tomorrow!

    Jenny-

    No disrespect to Target I promise. :) I think I put the money that I save from not going there right into my Starbucks fund. haha...miss you too!

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  6. Amazing post Heather! I find happiness in hearing you and others who are finding small or big ways to change their lives for the better! As I was reading I was thinking about how your message really rings true right now and then you mentioned our blog, that is so sweet and wonderful of you! You brought a big smile to my face and made my day! Keep up the inspiring work, good friend!
    Cheers!
    Amie

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